Today Shane and I have been married for SEVEN years! I feel like i have known him my whole life, so seven years doesn't seem long at all. As much as we have experienced, things we've been through, our travels, our kids...all of it....how could we have possibly done everything we have done in only 7 years!? It's crazy!
I am going to tell you the story about how we met. First, i had a missionary i was waiting for. When he got home i was available. I was living in Minnesota attending the community college with my sister. He got home and he came to my home a couple times and i went to his. We went down to Florida together to visit our best friends from before he left for his mission. He came home from his mission in November of 2002, i believe. We dated, traveled house to house, and talked on the phone for nearly 9 months. I was convinced i was going to marry him b/c i felt the spirit tell me so. BECAUSE i knew i was going to marry him, i needed to be at the school he was going to attend. He was going to go back to BYU-I where we first met before his mission. So, i applied to go there, and surprisingly i got in! I was surprised I got in b/c i had attended before and didn't do too well. :) So, i went out to BYU-I in June and he was coming out in August. So, i went out 2 months before he did.
Let me tell you this....my Patriarchal blessing always said that "the Lord would LEAD me" to my husband. That always was in the back of my mind. I was waiting to see where the "lead" came into play in our story. So, i got out to BYU-I all excited. I wasn't going to date b/c i wasn't looking for anything or anyone b/c my missionary was the one. I was having fun. THEN i met shane at a basketball game. Before i knew it we had spent every single night out of an entire week together. When i realized that, i stepped back away from that growing relationship. I needed to think and i didn't call shane for two days. He calls it "the two days of heck"....hahha...seriously. He still gives me a hard time b/c i wouldn't return his phone calls for two days. haha! I love it. Anyway, i ended up telling him that i had my return missionary coming out here soon. And i told him i didn't want to just be exclusive with him, that i wanted to date all kinds of people. Well, that didn't happen. I mean, i did date quite a few BEFORE i met him, but i wasn't looking for anything. But after i told him i didn't want to just date him i ate my own words b/c he started to consume all my thoughts and all my time. I told my missionary that i was dating this guy named shane. He needed to know.
So, i met shane for the first time in July but we didn't go on our first date until the beginning of August. My missionary got to BYU-I a couple of weeks after i met shane. My missionary got there, he knocked on my door, i opened the door...the spirit told me he wasn't the one. Any and ALL of those strong feelings i had for him were gone. I didn't feel it anymore. I then realized something....my patriarchal blessing came into play....the Lord had led me to my husband. I wouldn't have gone out to BYU-I, and wouldn't have met shane if i didn't feel that i was going to marry my missionary, if i didn't feel the spirit tell me so. The Lord works in mysterious ways! :) AND the reason i met him at a basketball game was b/c my roommate was coaching a girls basketball team. I went to watch her coach her team to support her. I went by myself. Shane went to watch a girl play basketball on the opposing team of my roomies team. He saw me by myself and at half time when i was still alone he decided to talk to me. When i told him i had just arrived there he was bummed a little b/c he thought i was a youngin, like 17 or 18. He was hoping i wasn't young. Sooooo when i told him i was 22 years old he was soooo excited. :)
We went on our first date in August and were sealed for time and all eternity November 15th! I think we were the quickest i have ever seen or known! :) When i think about how FAST we got married i am still in shock. That was too quick! Holy cow! AND i always told myself i would know a guy for all 4 seasons before i would marry him. Ate my words there too. :)
Now, let me tell you...Shane is not someone i would have ever imagined i would marry. I imagined marrying someone gentle, calm, not a type A personality, someone chill...I just figured i would marry someone who was very chill like me and my dad. Goes with the flow, kind of guy. That's not shane, BUT man i am glad he is the way he is. He is what i need in every way. His personality keeps me going. He motivates me, he pushes me to be better, he keeps my life exciting and fun, he keeps our relationship fresh and new. The Lord led me to a man that HE knew i needed that i didn't know i needed. One thing i am sooooooo grateful for is this....he likes to keep our relationship fun and exciting just like we are still honeymooners. I love that! AND i need someone like that. Without the explanation of why i need that, just know that i do need that. I love it and i love him for making that such a high priority b/c it makes me feel like he cares so much about me and our relationship. He is one of the most loyal people i know. I compliment him in so many ways and he compliments me in so many ways. One thing we both are is stubborn. So sometimes we can butt heads ... through that we have had to learn how to put our stubborness aside and work with each other. We have had so many growing experiences together and i am so grateful i have a man who isn't a quitter. He will do ANYTHING to make sure things work the way they are supposed to. We both have a dedication towards each other, that even through extremely difficult trials/circumstances, etc. we know how to pull together to make it work. We won't accept faliure or defeat. We had some difficult times in the beginning of our marriage....we got pregnant with our first just a few months after we got married, so we were still trying to get to know each other. We had to grow up fast. We had to learn to work together quick. We have lived away from family for 5 years of our married life. That is a huge growing experience b/c you really have to rely and depend on each other. Each other is all you have. Anyway, we have been through so much and i couldn't have picked anyone better to be my husband than shane. We are perfect for each other. I can't wait to see what the rest of our lives bring us. I can't wait to see how much more we can grow together and learn together.
He is so thoughtful. He does things for me that he knows matter to me. You have to learn the language of love...your partner's language of love. He learned mine and he does things for me that he knows I will love. For our anniversary he woke me up at 5:30 a.m.....that's what's so exciting about him....he woke me up that early b/c he was so excited to give me my gift! He couldn't take it any longer! He picked me up out of bed, brought me out to the front room and laid me on the couch. The tv was on with some beautiful music playing, but i couldnt' see it. He went in and got my glasses. I put my glasses on and i instantly could tell that he made a DVD for me....full of memories with music playing. Not only that but he had breakfast for the both of us sitting on the coffee table so we could eat while we watched the DVD. He played it and it was a 35 minute video of pictures from our life the moment we met up until now. He picked good music, he picked great photos, and he had some things written in there that were so sweet. I cried and laughed through the whole thing. He had been working on that for me for months. I had no idea. That's what i mean. He is so thoughtful and he loves to surprise me. I love him so much for that. He is one of a kind. And the most wonderful gift he gives me always is this....I KNOW without a doubt that he would do anything for me. He would do anything for me. And i know he loves me more than i have ever seen a man love a woman. I know it and I love it and i am so grateful for that. I don't like to brag. But i am bragging on my husband this one time. He is the best.
Shane is very in tune to my needs and i love him for that. I really feel so lucky and blessed to have him. I could go on and on about things that i love about him, but it would be too long. All i know is that i wish everyone could know the Shane I know. :) This place would be a little better b/c of it. Yes, he can be a stinker sometimes...really stubborn, insensitive, too sarcastic, too much of a tease. What guy doesn't have flaws, seriously. But those things are so little and minuscule compared to what really lies in his heart and the person he is. When married couples can learn to look past the little petty things and focus on the good in each other they will find it. You will find the good. You will be able to forget and put aside the silly petty stuff that really doesn't matter. When you make the decision to help your partner and ask yourself each day what you can do to help your partner have a better day, and DO IT, you will learn to love more and be happy more. This is a huge reason why we make it work. Shane is a huge reason why we work. He is perfect for ME...nobody else but me. :) I love you hun! Happy 7th Anniversary!
Here are a lot of pictures from our 7 years. These first five pictures are from before we got married. I have so many others i could add, but i only had time for these! Also, the song i have playing is "our" song. YOU RAISE ME UP, by josh groban. We have two songs, but this is my favorite out of the two.
I am going to tell you the story about how we met. First, i had a missionary i was waiting for. When he got home i was available. I was living in Minnesota attending the community college with my sister. He got home and he came to my home a couple times and i went to his. We went down to Florida together to visit our best friends from before he left for his mission. He came home from his mission in November of 2002, i believe. We dated, traveled house to house, and talked on the phone for nearly 9 months. I was convinced i was going to marry him b/c i felt the spirit tell me so. BECAUSE i knew i was going to marry him, i needed to be at the school he was going to attend. He was going to go back to BYU-I where we first met before his mission. So, i applied to go there, and surprisingly i got in! I was surprised I got in b/c i had attended before and didn't do too well. :) So, i went out to BYU-I in June and he was coming out in August. So, i went out 2 months before he did.
Let me tell you this....my Patriarchal blessing always said that "the Lord would LEAD me" to my husband. That always was in the back of my mind. I was waiting to see where the "lead" came into play in our story. So, i got out to BYU-I all excited. I wasn't going to date b/c i wasn't looking for anything or anyone b/c my missionary was the one. I was having fun. THEN i met shane at a basketball game. Before i knew it we had spent every single night out of an entire week together. When i realized that, i stepped back away from that growing relationship. I needed to think and i didn't call shane for two days. He calls it "the two days of heck"....hahha...seriously. He still gives me a hard time b/c i wouldn't return his phone calls for two days. haha! I love it. Anyway, i ended up telling him that i had my return missionary coming out here soon. And i told him i didn't want to just be exclusive with him, that i wanted to date all kinds of people. Well, that didn't happen. I mean, i did date quite a few BEFORE i met him, but i wasn't looking for anything. But after i told him i didn't want to just date him i ate my own words b/c he started to consume all my thoughts and all my time. I told my missionary that i was dating this guy named shane. He needed to know.
So, i met shane for the first time in July but we didn't go on our first date until the beginning of August. My missionary got to BYU-I a couple of weeks after i met shane. My missionary got there, he knocked on my door, i opened the door...the spirit told me he wasn't the one. Any and ALL of those strong feelings i had for him were gone. I didn't feel it anymore. I then realized something....my patriarchal blessing came into play....the Lord had led me to my husband. I wouldn't have gone out to BYU-I, and wouldn't have met shane if i didn't feel that i was going to marry my missionary, if i didn't feel the spirit tell me so. The Lord works in mysterious ways! :) AND the reason i met him at a basketball game was b/c my roommate was coaching a girls basketball team. I went to watch her coach her team to support her. I went by myself. Shane went to watch a girl play basketball on the opposing team of my roomies team. He saw me by myself and at half time when i was still alone he decided to talk to me. When i told him i had just arrived there he was bummed a little b/c he thought i was a youngin, like 17 or 18. He was hoping i wasn't young. Sooooo when i told him i was 22 years old he was soooo excited. :)
We went on our first date in August and were sealed for time and all eternity November 15th! I think we were the quickest i have ever seen or known! :) When i think about how FAST we got married i am still in shock. That was too quick! Holy cow! AND i always told myself i would know a guy for all 4 seasons before i would marry him. Ate my words there too. :)
Now, let me tell you...Shane is not someone i would have ever imagined i would marry. I imagined marrying someone gentle, calm, not a type A personality, someone chill...I just figured i would marry someone who was very chill like me and my dad. Goes with the flow, kind of guy. That's not shane, BUT man i am glad he is the way he is. He is what i need in every way. His personality keeps me going. He motivates me, he pushes me to be better, he keeps my life exciting and fun, he keeps our relationship fresh and new. The Lord led me to a man that HE knew i needed that i didn't know i needed. One thing i am sooooooo grateful for is this....he likes to keep our relationship fun and exciting just like we are still honeymooners. I love that! AND i need someone like that. Without the explanation of why i need that, just know that i do need that. I love it and i love him for making that such a high priority b/c it makes me feel like he cares so much about me and our relationship. He is one of the most loyal people i know. I compliment him in so many ways and he compliments me in so many ways. One thing we both are is stubborn. So sometimes we can butt heads ... through that we have had to learn how to put our stubborness aside and work with each other. We have had so many growing experiences together and i am so grateful i have a man who isn't a quitter. He will do ANYTHING to make sure things work the way they are supposed to. We both have a dedication towards each other, that even through extremely difficult trials/circumstances, etc. we know how to pull together to make it work. We won't accept faliure or defeat. We had some difficult times in the beginning of our marriage....we got pregnant with our first just a few months after we got married, so we were still trying to get to know each other. We had to grow up fast. We had to learn to work together quick. We have lived away from family for 5 years of our married life. That is a huge growing experience b/c you really have to rely and depend on each other. Each other is all you have. Anyway, we have been through so much and i couldn't have picked anyone better to be my husband than shane. We are perfect for each other. I can't wait to see what the rest of our lives bring us. I can't wait to see how much more we can grow together and learn together.
He is so thoughtful. He does things for me that he knows matter to me. You have to learn the language of love...your partner's language of love. He learned mine and he does things for me that he knows I will love. For our anniversary he woke me up at 5:30 a.m.....that's what's so exciting about him....he woke me up that early b/c he was so excited to give me my gift! He couldn't take it any longer! He picked me up out of bed, brought me out to the front room and laid me on the couch. The tv was on with some beautiful music playing, but i couldnt' see it. He went in and got my glasses. I put my glasses on and i instantly could tell that he made a DVD for me....full of memories with music playing. Not only that but he had breakfast for the both of us sitting on the coffee table so we could eat while we watched the DVD. He played it and it was a 35 minute video of pictures from our life the moment we met up until now. He picked good music, he picked great photos, and he had some things written in there that were so sweet. I cried and laughed through the whole thing. He had been working on that for me for months. I had no idea. That's what i mean. He is so thoughtful and he loves to surprise me. I love him so much for that. He is one of a kind. And the most wonderful gift he gives me always is this....I KNOW without a doubt that he would do anything for me. He would do anything for me. And i know he loves me more than i have ever seen a man love a woman. I know it and I love it and i am so grateful for that. I don't like to brag. But i am bragging on my husband this one time. He is the best.
Shane is very in tune to my needs and i love him for that. I really feel so lucky and blessed to have him. I could go on and on about things that i love about him, but it would be too long. All i know is that i wish everyone could know the Shane I know. :) This place would be a little better b/c of it. Yes, he can be a stinker sometimes...really stubborn, insensitive, too sarcastic, too much of a tease. What guy doesn't have flaws, seriously. But those things are so little and minuscule compared to what really lies in his heart and the person he is. When married couples can learn to look past the little petty things and focus on the good in each other they will find it. You will find the good. You will be able to forget and put aside the silly petty stuff that really doesn't matter. When you make the decision to help your partner and ask yourself each day what you can do to help your partner have a better day, and DO IT, you will learn to love more and be happy more. This is a huge reason why we make it work. Shane is a huge reason why we work. He is perfect for ME...nobody else but me. :) I love you hun! Happy 7th Anniversary!
Here are a lot of pictures from our 7 years. These first five pictures are from before we got married. I have so many others i could add, but i only had time for these! Also, the song i have playing is "our" song. YOU RAISE ME UP, by josh groban. We have two songs, but this is my favorite out of the two.
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Ohhhhhh I love you both so dang much.....Shane showed me a sneak peek of the video he made for you I thought it was the sweetest thing ever.....You're so deserving of everything and such a good wife and mother....THanks for being such a good example and friend to me. I love you guys.
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